About Sander T Jones, LCSW, LISW-CP, CCH

 ​Chances are, you’ve tried some things already. You’ve given it time and it hasn’t gone away on its own. You talked with friends and loved ones. Maybe you’ve even read self help books or engaged in a new activity such as exercise,  a new hobby, meditation, or a spiritual retreat, but IT is still there.

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What is IT? It is the unpleasant feelings, thoughts or behaviors that are interfering with your enjoyment of life. Maybe you’re feeling anxious and you’re plagued with worrying thoughts about yourself, your life, your relationships, or just the cleanliness of your kitchen. Your life might be greatly impacted or limited by your frequent need to avoid things that make you feel anxious.

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Maybe you’re feeling down and depressed. You may be struggling under immense burdens, or you may think, "My life is so good, how can I feel depressed?" Either way, you can’t seem to feel hopeful, or enjoy your accomplishments, wash the dishes, or even get out of bed.

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You may have painful memories from your past. Maybe you stayed ahead of them for years, but for some reason, you just can’t push past them, or contain them the way you used to. Facing those memories head-on may seem daunting and often needs professional guidance to resolve them successfully.

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You may be struggling in one of your relationships. You may be talking past each other or feel you’re at an impasse and no compromise seems possible. You may know you want to feel differently but you can’t seem to find peace, change how you feel, or forgive and reconnect with someone who has hurt you. You may wonder, "How do you know when to give up and when to keep trying?"

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​You also know you need a therapist who will understand and respect your identity, your partners identities, and your relationship structures. You need someone who is affirming of relationships that are ethically non-monogamous, LGBTQ+ identities, kink/BDSM, or Leather families. Or maybe you need someone who can be affirming and supportive of voluntary sex work in your history or in your present day life.

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I understand. I share  some of these identities, and I’ve been in most of these painful places. And most importantly, because I’ve been there… I know the way out. I will be your guide in learning how to get these emotions to shift, calm the worries, face the fears, reconnect the relationships, find the motivation, and kindle hope. Sometimes the road is long and sometimes it’s short, and if you’re willing to do the work, we can get to where you want to go.